When I was a kid, I used to sit at the top of the stairs with my older brother and make plans for our lives when we became adults. I was going to be a famous fashion designer with a sweet walk-up in the Upper East Side of New York and be married by 25. (It was the 90s — everyone thought marriage would happen young.)
But then, I grew up.
Instead of living that dream I had at 12, I was deep in my quarter-life crisis after deciding fashion was NOT my future but without any idea about what was. Plus, I was nowhere NEAR marriage. Instead, I was about as single as younger Samantha in Sex and the City.
At 25, not only was I as far away from my dreams as possible, but I was also as far away from being an adult as possible.
THAT is why I started This is Adult Life!
As kids, we grow up thinking the adults have all the answers. But it isn’t until we become of age that we realize NO ONE has all the answers — especially the adults.
Instead, all of our lives go in different directions and things happen at different times than we expected them to. And sometimes the directions we go make us feel like failures because we’re not reaching certain milestones by a certain age. Especially 30.
If it feels like everyone else is making progress while you’re still sitting in your sweats, Netflix and Chillin’ by yourself, without a clue how to move forward, I want you to know that it’s OKAY! You’re not alone.
Even if you didn’t get your “dream job” or that job wasn’t what you expected it to be. Or if you broke up with your love after seven years of dating or you’re still waiting to meet “the one”. It doesn’t matter.
We are exactly where we’re supposed to be.
Adulting is fickle. One moment, we can feel like we’re on top of the world and KILLING it. And the next, all we want to do is crawl under the covers, binge-watch reruns of Scooby-Doo (Or whatever), and wish to go back in time when things were simpler.
But don’t let that stop you. We get to become the exact adults we want to. We just have to keep going.
Here are some links to help you:
No matter what kind of information you’re searching for, I have a post to help you. From self-love tips, to ways to live a healthier lifestyle, to tips for personal development to become the best version of you.
And stay tuned for even more from me in 2020, including a new podcast and New Adult book about a 25-year-old named Chole Gordon, who is trying everything to get out of her dead-end life.
Brooke Van Sickle
PS – If you want to learn more about my life as an author, visit my personal website at brookevansickle.com to see a listing of my books, events, and more.
Guest Appearances of me around the Web:
- Overcoming Imposter Syndrome with Ruth Soukup
- Speaker for the Wealthy Author Summit – Jan. 21-28, 2020
- Author Interview for my New Picture Book at Frog on a (B)log
- Interview on Dith Your Job Podcast – Coming Soon